Lindsey Dillingham

I have been told one of the hardest things about marriage is combining two different lives into one. My fiancee is applying to medical school. He is deciding which schools he wants to apply to. I am realizing that I will have to get a job wherever he gets into school. I know that he would love to stay in Oklahoma, as would I. Even in Oklahoma, there are two different schools. One located in Tulsa and the other in Oklahoma City. It is very scary to think about finding a job, but then knowing that I will be in a certain city and not have a choice of anywhere I want to go. Maybe this sounds like I am not ready for marriage because I don’t want to give up some of my dreams, but really I am. I am just scared about finding a job in the same city as him. I would love to work for an NBA team and from the looks of things, Oklahoma might have one whether the N.O./Oklahoma City Hornets stay or not. If Ty gets a job in Tulsa then that wouldn’t work. I am afraid that the opportunities will be there but I won’t be living in the right place. I would rather be married and living with him than to have a job I really wanted. Besides my true dream job is to own a dress shop one day. Once Ty is out of medical school I might try that, but until then I will continue to worry and pray that everything will work out.

My mom, God bless her, has been looking at decorations to buy for my wedding. She has great intentions and I really appreciate her looking at stuff for me. She called me earlier today to ask if I wanted white paper heart doilies. Her tastes are not similar to my tastes. A couple of days ago she called asking if I wanted her to buy fake baby’s breath for anything. I hate baby’s breath! Everyone has told me that my relationship with my mom will be tested while planning my wedding. Nothing so far has been a big deal, but we will see!

I am trying to decide where to get married. I would like to get married in Stillwater. My fiancee and I are from the same town and my mom wants us to get married there, Elgin, Oklahoma. (For those who don’t know where Elgin is, it is right by Lawton.) I have been looking into Stillwater locations. I want to have an outdoor wedding so finding a location is hard. I am thinking about getting married on the plaza at Willard. Ty proposed at Theta pond and we have always joked about getting married there. To rent the Willard plaza it is $80, which is a very good price for a location. White Barn also offers outdoor weddings, but I don’t think I want to get married there. At the Stillwater Bridal Fair I discovered that the new Conoco Phillips Alumni Center can be used for weddings. If you are looking for a place in Stillwater to get married it might be something you would want to look into. My mom is coming up to visit soon to look at Willard. If it rains I think I will just have it at the church Ty and I attend now, although Willard does offer its living room as a backup plan. I can’t decide where to have the wedding reception. I have the choice of Willard but you have to use University Dining to cater the event. I could look into Meditations, the Alumni Center, or White Barn Estates. If I choose Willard I need to find somewhere to rent white chairs from, so if anybody knows of a good place to rent from let me know!