Lindsey Dillingham

Guide For Guests: What To Wear
Wedding attire can be hard too choose.  I never know for sure what is appropriate for different types of weddings.  Many wedding invitation indicate what type of dress is expected, but even that can be hard to understand.  Here are some basic guidelines to help you be a well-dressed guest.
If no dress is indicated, your attire is determined to a large degree by the time of day.
Morning Wedding                                                      
Think “special clothes”. Depending on the season, your clothing is likely to be lighter colored and a bit more casual that you might wear for an evening wedding. Men should still plan to wear a suit or nice sports coat and slacks, and a tie. Women can wear a nice dress, skirt or suit, and might opt for something comparatively colorful, or floral.
Afternoon Wedding
Dress as you would for a Morning Wedding.
Evening Wedding/No Dress Indicated
Dress as you would for a nice dinner out. Men should wear suits, women should choose dresses, skirts or elegant suits. Select darker colors and fabrics than you would choose for a morning or afternoon wedding. Jewelry can be more elaborate.
There are a few phrases commonly used to indicate the formality, or informality, of dress.
Casual Attire
Although it would be rare to see this indicated on an invitation, it is sometimes used when the hosts wish to let you know that the circumstances of the wedding are such that you really should not be too dressed up. Leave the high heels or a double-breasted suit at home. This might be the case if the wedding is being held outdoors — at the beach, in a park, etc. — and is more common for second weddings. Other variations on this level of dress might be expressed as “Garden Party Attire”, etc.
However, don’t take casual to the extreme. Women might still opt for a dress or skirt, although a more casual one, or a suit with flat shoes. Gentlemen might wear nice slacks and a dress shirt with or without a tie. Casual attire does not mean jeans and tennis shoes.
Cocktail Attire
Dress as you would for a fancy cocktail party or a fancy dinner out on the town. This attire is similar to that indicated above for Evening Weddings, but with an emphasis on sophistication. Women should strive for elegance and chic, rather than sweet or pretty dresses. Men should dress to be their most dashing (although tuxedos are not appropriate).
Black Tie Optional
This dress allows those who wish to go all out and dress in black tie to do so, but provides leeway for those who wish to dress a little less formally. This option is generally well-received because it means that men who don’t own or want to rent a tuxedo need not feel compelled to do so. Men can opt to wear a dark suit instead of a tuxedo, but a black, dark navy, or dark grey suit would be the best choice. Men should dress as formally as they can, short of actually wearing a tuxedo. Women can dress as formally as black tie, but can also get away with a shorter, cocktail style dress.
Black Tie
This is the most formal attire. Men should plan to wear a tuxedo, and women dress in formal dresses, usually floor length.
If you are in doubt as to how fancy to dress, ask a few friends who are also attending the wedding what they plan to wear to help direct your choice. When in doubt, err in the direction of over dressing a little (with the exception of wearing a tuxedo to anything but a black tie or black tie optional event) rather than showing up dressed too casually.
Other attire essentials:
Wearing black: the long standing tradition of ladies not wearing black to a wedding has been overturned. Today, even the bridesmaids might be outfitted in black. Just make sure you don’t look like you’re attending a funeral. Consider accessorizing that little black dress with a brightly colored scarf or blazer